I was recently asked a question regarding forgiveness. I address it in a basic way since much more can be said on the subject.
The first is you as the victim. Forgive irrespective. If it is the first time someone offends you, forgive and give them another chance. If it is a repeat offender, then forgive anyway but minimise the opportunities for them to offend you. Forgiveness is like shoveling away the snow that has blocked off your driveway. It allows you to move on. And so the snow will fall again, and you will forgive and clear your pathway. So no, when someone offends you, they don’t have to have to earn forgiveness – you forgive irrespective. Remember though, it is your prerogative to forgive without them asking. But if they ask, preferably forgive.
The difference to forgiving and “letting them into your life” is that you forgive without them asking but letting them in, you may want to see some remorse. Let’s call it earn. However, note that you don’t have to cut people off, but rather take greater control of access to your life – this is not a negative, but a huge positive for you are confident and in control of Your life.
As for when you the offender, then waste no time to ask for forgiveness sincerely. Always expect the other person not to be as forgiving, so make effort to ask for forgiveness. There are times to grovel, depending on seriousness, but most times it is not necessary. You can only ask and pray they forgive you. Don’t absolutely beat yourself up if they don’t forgive for whatever reason. Keep on doing good and include them in your circle of good you do unto others. Therein lies a show of love and love leads to compassion.
Forgiveness is not a right someone owes you but neither is it a sword you hold over another when you are offended.
Life can be tricky but easy if you do the right things.
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