Wedding days are such beautiful days signaling eternal bliss with smiles as broad of the globe of the earth. The rays of sun beams in the brightness of the couple’s faces. The only tears are the tears of happiness and joy as if one had to save these teardrops as an antidote.
We will all argue that relationships are based on respect, reciprocal of course. There’s love and then there’s trust. Life is seen as bliss itself or rather bliss is seen as life itself. Individually and together the couple feel invincible. There is hardly a moment in life that can get two people on such an emotional high than their wedding day. They did not save those sweet teardrops of joy though and as the air is let out of their bubble of eternal happiness, a minor speedbump feels like smashing into a mountain itself. People lose their breakfast sitting in the passenger’s seat and the feeling of nausea disturbs the thinking. It was a speedbump but the couple was not prepared for it. Or were they?
Relationships differ from each other by type. A parent-child relationship is different from a sibling relationship and both are different from a spousal relationship, etc. Thus while your relationship with your parent developed over your lifetime, with your sibling too over many years, your relationship with your spouse has many more challenges since it missed your own developmental years. It is understanding these challenges that will stand spouses in good stead. But challenges have different colours, smells, looks, etc and sometimes one cannot place the challenge in perspective. The consequence is that the relationship deteriorates and, in some instances, it will be easier if it goes up in smoke and be over with. Yet, there are those where a peacekeeping army, yes, indeed an army, be sent in to calm matters and the world’s top negotiators sent in to find a peaceful solution. There are certainly some that is on the brink, with no help or closure, it continues while couples and families suffer because the couple refuses to take their medication – medication here means some assistance.
Men and women both suffer in difficult relationships. Men and women suffer in divorce. One does not have to wait on the other to seek help because as a person you need to feel whole again. People in difficult relationships, those going through divorce, or those divorced all have one thing in common. Bad relationships leave scars. If only most will understand its impact.
Recent Comments