The water dripped slowly, one drop at a time. The drops fell onto a little rock which was showing shines of wear. No one can tell precisely how long these drops have been falling but its impact was noticeable. The drops have made an indent in the rock where is tiny little pool had formed. Extending from this rather small pool was a crack opening. This may have happened over a long time but even this solid rock was feel the effect of erosion.
The sensitive heart which feels the emotion and has the means to send that message to the brain. The brain, the central mechanical system of the person, informs the rest of the body through its central nervous system. The body or part thereof reacts. The body, uncertain of being able to offer assistance to the heart, reacts with pain and illness. The heart feels lonely and miserable.
You may often joke and have some good banter. There may be a fair amount of negativity in it and playful mocking. The person who is mocked may laugh along but the continuous mocking is like the little drops falling on the rock and eventually causing erosion. Yet, the heart is nowhere near as tough as that rock. The heart will crumble much quicker. The recipient of this nasty banter will put on a brave face but his body has reacted in the only way it knows. It has taken that negativity which, while it happened over time, appeared like a shock to the body. You may experience someone looking well one moment and totally out of sorts very soon thereafter. This is because that one last drop, that one little bit of oft-repeated negative banter, finally broke the rock. Ah, the laughs that negative banter bring and our desire to be happy and humorous that unwittingly our jokes become little spears cutting at the heart of an innocent recipient. This person may be a spouse, a child or a friend and you will be none the wiser for the negative impact you had on that person. A wise man advised that one should be careful to joke with a stranger. This is because he may not understand your humour and/or he may be in a bad space but generally you don’t know how he will react. The English saying says “too much of a good thing is bad ..”. Indeed, not only should you know your limits but understand well that your relationship might deteriorate as the recipient experiences this psychological impact, the erosion of the heart.
It is in your hands to do some introspection and limit the negative vibes you emit through your banter. If you are mostly on the receiving end, then ask others to tone it down. Acts of love in a positive way and meaningful uplifting words and words of praise must outweigh, by far, the negative banter. If that negativity is greater from the banter than any other positive input, then you have issues to deal with immediately whether you are the giver and taker.
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