Tying yourself in knots is never a good thing. Of course, it will have been easier to not tie yourself in knots rather than having to untie the knots. Without the knots, you will have that sense of freedom again. Sure, not all knots can be avoided, and that is something we can chat about again, but the knots that you (almost) knowingly tie, that must be at least questionable. In truth, the focus on the knot in this note will not be the knot itself, but rather it will be the use of the word “not”.
Goalsetting is important. Self-esteem is important. Confidence plays a role in these and in much more. Sometimes you may have answered a question, relating to yourself, using the word “not”, when in fact, you would have done better to look for a way to answer without using the word “not” or “don’t”. Asking a learner at school how they view the examinations coming up, or the year ahead, you will, in many instances, get the response that “I don’t want to fail”. The answer is loaded with negativity. There is clearly a lack of confidence and that must be addressed. Simply changing the answer will not immediately give you confidence but it will be an important step in the right direction. This kind of answer can be applied to every facet of your life. It is not that the “not” can never be used, but it must not be the order of the day and must be appropriate relative to the circumstance. You have seen memes where there is a need to correct something like “I don’t want to fail” by taking away the negative and the unfortunate response is “I want to fail”. Noooo! Look for a positive way to say something. This is a fairly common way many approach matters, and life itself, by applying a negative spin while the positive spin is far more productive.
It will be better for you, and others with whom you interact, when you remove fear and negativity from your thoughts, utterances and even banter. Consider, as much as possible, placing a positive spin on it, thereby uplifting yourself and others.
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