Pieces of the Puzzle

The knife, however blunt, passes easily through soft butter. The sharp needle pierces the skin on its way to lodge in the muscle. Yet the blunt object can land a devastating blow. Likewise, with speech, it is the sharp words that penetrates deep into your soul, but the blunt speech knocks you into a dizzy spell.

Life is like a jigsaw puzzle. It is in these moments of sharp rebuke or a devastating blunt retort, that you will find that the pieces at your disposal, at that moment, do not fit. For many, those pieces that fit appear later and life is all good right at that point. It is in the lead up to that moment that there is frustration and possibly a move to force the wrong piece into the already fitted pieces of the puzzle. The lessons of life are plenty with patience being key. No one is above patience. Impatience leads to new problems even though those problems may not be apparent at first. But I do digress a little. Time heals wounds although likely not all. Nevertheless, in this instance, and, in general, time should heal these wounds. However, what is key to our growth is that we learn from these incidents. That we learn patience but also how to choose the appropriate pieces sooner rather than later. At times, it is meant to be part of our growth to have incidents of misunderstanding. It must be an opportunity to learn. The sad reality is that few take time to reflect and assess their own role in the incident, happily palming off all responsibility to the other party. Worse still, is being arrogant at a time like this.

You must want to strengthen bonds rather than weaken bonds. It is a reflection on you as a person irrespective whether you were the perpetrator or the victim. It is about understanding the next step which ordinarily should be to find the ideal piece of the puzzle that fits. The subplot in the puzzle is this relationship. Forcing the wrong piece to make it fit will have negative consequences or at least may impact on the long-term solution to this puzzle. This may lead to further unnecessary struggles and possible regrets later on in life.

The necessary life skills are often not imparted because no one sees the wise old man in the village, or they choose not to see him. A lesson learnt is a sign of your growth. Imparting it is a sign of your wisdom.

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