Everyone has needs and wants but the latter will outnumber the former in the majority of cases. And as with everything in life, love too is subject of needs and wants. You eat because, at its most basic form, it is a need. Yet you likely eat beyond the need and so you eat to fulfill the desire, meaning that at a certain point your food has become a want and not a need.
You “fall in love” so love must be a want? If that is the case, then you have reduced love to a simple dimension. The only thing simple about love, when found, is that it resides in the heart. Let us park hatred for now and concentrate on love. Love is the one thing that enters the heart while there will always be room for more love. When you are eating, even the most glutinous, will have a limit to his eating. But not so love, love has no limit. But does that make it a need or is it merely a want? Then you must look at life from the other angle. If love is that which fills the heart, then when there is no love, the heart will merely be an empty vessel. Hardly a person is born but that person is loved even before his birth. The growth and development of that child is dependent on care which includes such aspects as food and love. Any child deprived of love suffers mentally and emotionally, if not physically also. Thus at the outset love is a need for that child.
In life, as you develop, your nutritional requirements will change. In similar fashion, the emotional and spiritual development needs nurturing. Development need nurturing because it is of the basic necessities of life, i.e. love and spiritual development is of the basic necessities of life. Like food, you can fast and stay away from food for a while but the body needs food. Love is like that, for the heart devoid of love does suffer. Love does not only relate to marriage but has roots in your relationship with God, parent-child relationships, friendships, neighbourly love and many others. The mistake many make is that when they seek out their partner in life and they don’t find that person, or something happens in the relationship, then they deny love or the need for love. Love is what the heart needs and a healthy heart certainly functions better with love.
The simplest test of the importance of love is to listen to yourself when your life is filled with love as opposed to those times when love is not immediately felt or present. Love is a need. The person, from who you are seeking love, might be a “want”. It is great when the love does come from whom you want.
May you never be in need of love. May your life be filled with love.
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