Bonds are the glue between people, be it two people such as in marriage, or more people such as in families and various other groups. Each bond is generally based on the type of relationship that established that bond. Divorce, which is the official breaking of the marital bond, is likely the most commonly spoken of dissolution of a bond. Two people met, got married and then divorce broke that bond. Yet bonds are broken all the time except there is no official human record of it, normally. Why are the breaks, may-a-time, permanent.
Irreconcilable differences, cheating, love no longer exists, are some of the reasons for divorce. While we live at a time when, in certain places, children can divorce their parents, we will stick to the more socially and religiously accepted family structure. Yet, it is true that those same excuses that are used in marriage breakups, do rear its head in family disputes and breakups. If you are experiencing or have experienced such a situation, then one thing that you will understand is that there is some level of immaturity from one or both parties (and sometimes more parties). Stubbornness is the face of that immaturity. The saying that blood is thicker than water can be exaggerated in this case to the extent that the blood is so thick that it does not even flow. Yeah, you will retort and say that “you don’t know half of the story of that lying cheat ….”. Let us park that remark for another time or more private chat. Let us focus on unblocking the traffic jam just a little. Or something like the doctor saying “let’s just do this small procedure so that we can re-evaluate and find the best possible solution to your health problem”. There may not be that solution after all, but you have found some relief from that initial small procedure. Likewise, take some of the burden off your shoulders, allow your family to breathe a little again, by allowing civility to take over.
Seeing bonds broken on any level is not something you can put as a strength on your CV. Positives are what we must strive for, and mending bonds must rank high in importance. No matter which bonds get broken, civility must still be the order of the day. Divorce is the official break up of the marital bond. Family relationships and friendships do not have that official stamp. The family bond is one that ties people to the umbilical cord. While friendship does not have either of the two aforementioned, rather have fewer, but long-lasting friendships. And if it doesn’t work out, remain civil nevertheless.
At then at the end of it all, if you are in that situation, speak to people who can assist you in getting over it, not those who will help load the baggage onto your shoulders.
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